Are you too quick to leave a relationship?

There are lots of good reasons to leave a relationship.
In some cases, you may find the other person isn’t who you hoped they were.
 Perhaps now that you've got to know them properly, you’ve realised there isn’t enough compatibility to sustain things long term.

In the case of longer relationships, you may feel that either you or your partner has changed over time and that your partnership isn’t fulfilling the same role it once was.

However, in some cases, we may also be tempted to give up on a relationship before really giving it a chance.

We may feel that the effort of trying is going to be too great - or even that the fact we have to try indicates there’s something wrong here.


What does it mean to ‘give things a try’?

Being too ‘quick’ to leave a relationship isn’t necessarily about the amount of time you invest in it - sometimes, it’s about the amount of energy and attention.

Giving a relationship a proper try is about working towards a genuine understanding of the other person.

Why might someone give up on a relationship too soon?

There are many reasons why someone might get into this pattern of behaviour.
You may have insecurities about long-term commitment - and find the idea difficult or scary. You may have grown up in an environment where you learnt about the more difficult side of commitment - witnessing your parents divorce, for instance, or the breakdown of a family relationship.

What should you do?

Simply? Try to give things a real ‘go’. This may sound fairly cliched and easier said than done, but it really is the key to giving both you and any potential partner the chance to really understand one another.
A lot of this is to do with trying to be more open, communicative and honest. Although this can be a little harder, sometimes more frustrating and will definitely involve being more vulnerable, it can also mean really getting an understanding of who each other is and whether your relationship might work in the longer term.